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Dealing with someone who hates you

Most people will find out at some point that someone hates them, or that there is even hate. In the event that you've done harm to someone, you need to apologize and do your best to catch up. However, if someone hates you for inappropriate reasons, such as your identity or your clothing tastes, there is no need to change anything about yourself. Instead, do your best to protect yourself mentally and physically from negative people. Remember that it is impossible to please everyone and not be oppressed by unjustified hostility.


1 Don't meet negative people directly

  1.            1      Ignore them. If possible, try not to deal with negative people. Bullies are often excited about the reaction of their victims. Very often, negative people try to validate themselves by making someone else feel bad. This can create a downward spiral where the hater insults you and you react and the hater reacts to your reaction again.
    • Bullies are a special kind of negative people. A bully is when their actions are repeated and there is a power imbalance. Although all abusers are negative people, not all negative people are abusers. For example, you can berate your brother without actually being a bully because you are probably bigger and stronger than him. Similarly, a classmate who tells you something angry doesn't have to be a bully. Passive methods are generally better at dealing with bullies, while exposure is often the best way to deal with other negative people.
    • If your hater annoys you in class, pretend you can't hear him or her. If the hater tries to lure you out of your tent to get your attention, don't respond.
    • Remember, ignoring hate under all circumstances is not the best thing to do. If the person who hates you is attacking you physically or verbally, then it is best to call a supervisor such as a teacher or team leader.
  2.             2      Radiant self-confidence. Confidence is your best weapon against a hater. Laugh off insults at yourself, react in a funny way, and stay positive. When your confidence is rock solid, a hater becomes frustrated and leaves you alone.
    • For example, if someone insults your art, go upstairs. For example, you might say, "It's a shame you think, but art is subjective. I do my best to get better, so I appreciate your constructive criticism."
    • If someone calls you "weird", you might say, "Maybe a little, but I am who I am. What's wrong with being weird?"
    • When you meet someone who clearly hates you, don't look down or the other way. This way of doing it makes it clear to the hater that you are scared and gives the hater exactly what he wants. Better stand up straight and walk past with your head held high.
  3.             3      Avoid negative people. This doesn't mean you have to get out of your way because you can never let tyrants control your life. It just means that you are trying to put yourself in situations where you do not face negative people.
    • Especially when you are young, you will encounter a lot of negative people who do not understand your interests and passions. Instead of dealing with these types of people, you can better find ways to pursue your passions outside of the sphere of influence of their negativity.
    • If you are dealing with particularly harmful people in one of your classes, ask if you can switch to another group. When faced with negative people in one club or group, you may want to consider moving to another group that is not as negative.
    • If you know that someone who is particularly annoying can always be found in the same spot, don't go to this place every day. Take a different route or ask a few friends to go to this place as a group.
    • Avoiding negative people is also a great way to build your confidence. This gives you the opportunity to pursue your interests without a stream of negative thoughts.
  4.             4      Prove otherwise. When negative people say you can't do something, then showing that you can, the best way to silence them. Do the things they say you can't do and do them well. Use their negativity as fuel for your own journey.
    • For example, if negative people tell you that you will never be good at sports, you can prove otherwise by working hard. Become a member of a sports team in a sport of your choice (if not) and you will be completely absorbed.
    • If negative people tell you that you are too afraid to talk to your flame, let that motivate you to finally ask him.
    • Remember, proving negative people otherwise won't always stop them from doing their behavior. In some cases, your success can make the negative people even more jealous. This isn't a reason to stop yourself from succeeding, but don't do anything just because they challenge you. Live for yourself.

2 Start confronting negative people

  1.             1      Let me hear from you. If you can't take it anymore, indicate this. Avoiding negative people doesn't always solve the problem. Find a moment to speak openly to such people and explain what is bothering you. Join any negation as a mature and conscientious counterpart to the conversation, no matter how blunt the other person has been in the past. This is especially important for negative people who remain passive and don't offend immediately.
    • Say the negative, "I notice that you are reacting very negatively to me and I find it more convenient if you keep these thoughts to yourself. It's childish and I don't want to have anything more to do with it."
    • Try to understand why the negative is so. Ask the person, "Have I harmed you? You are very negative for me and I don't understand why."
  2.             2      Don't be too hasty. Negative people feed on your emotions. If you react quickly and emotionally, you are unlikely to make it clear to the other person. If you take away, that person only has more reason to bring you down. Don't let anger and frustration overshadow your words. Give yourself time to cool off before answering.
  3.             3      Doesn't get physical and aggressive. Use thoughtful words and confident maturity to resolve conflicts. If negativity is fire, be yourself like water to extinguish it. React in a cool and controlled manner. Fighting fire with fire doesn't work.
    • While you should never start a fight, you cannot let a negation hurt you. Learn to defend yourself and protect yourself. Use the power of your attacker against him or her.

3 Dealing with bullying on the internet

  1.             1      Don't respond to trolling. Negative people you meet online can go on for even longer than the ones you see every day. Remember, however, that their motivation is usually the same: they want a reaction from you. Fortunately, there are many ways to rule out cyberpests.
    • Block people who are bothering you. Most online platforms allow you to block certain users. Use this feature to prevent the negative person from contacting you. In many forums, this feature can even hide your public posts so as not to disrupt the day.
    • Read the game rules or the website. Most of the bans will ban trolls, threats, and other negative communications. Instead of responding to such attacks, it is better to report this to a moderator.
  2.             2      Protect your privacy. Do not use your real name on Facebook and other websites. This is especially important when you have a unique name that can be easily found on a search engine. Use a nickname while playing and respond to forums. Consider using different nicknames to make stubborn trolling more difficult on the websites you visit.
    • Never forget that whatever you place on the internet will basically remain accessible forever. Even if you think a forum is private or you've deleted something, a hateful person can just download it or take a screenshot of it for later use. Think before you place anything.
    • Especially if you are a minor, you need to be very careful about the type of information you distribute online. Don't post things a stalker can tell you about your home address or your daily routine.
  3.             3      Tell someone if you feel threatened. When a bully turns from minor insults to direct threats, it is simply impossible to ignore. If this happens to you, tell someone you trust. If you are still a minor, you must inform a parent or legal guardian.
    • Don't delete anything. While you might be tempted to erase these hurtful words, it is better to keep them. Save all emails, messages and chat logs. Certain forms of bullying are illegal. When it comes to a point where authorities are needed, you need to be able to provide evidence of what happened.
  4.             4      Accept criticism with your head held high. If you have a business, you are likely to get some negative reactions online. The anonymity of the internet can encourage dissatisfied people to act harder than they would personally. Don't let your words undermine your confidence, but weigh them carefully. Just because something is said negatively doesn't mean it's not right. It is better to see such a "hateful person" than a rude critic. The same is true if you are a writer or artist and you are putting your work online. Obnoxious comments like this are different from intimidation and should be treated very differently.
    • Try to communicate with critics by posting personal comments. Be empathetic, logical, and polite. Offer solutions. Don't try to react angry without thinking about your words.
    • Don't even think about answering. It is difficult to keep everyone happy, and it is difficult to have meaningful conversation with someone through a forum. This is especially true when a person makes a habit of making hateful comments. This is the nature of an online presence. Some people may hate you for the same things that others just love.

4 Keep both feet on the ground

  1.             1      Don't lose sight of perspective. These negative people can be incredibly annoying right now and even make your life miserable, but think about the extent to which they ultimately matter. Chances are that before you know it, you will end up in a completely different situation. Life is of course changeable. Don't let these negative people dominate your life while they can be a small, uncomfortable aspect of it.
  2.             2      Don't forget that this experience is only temporary. Think about how long you will have to deal with these negative people. Imagine yourself in five years. Think about where you want to go and what you want to do. Ask yourself if these negative people are still part of your life. You probably know these types of hateful people in school. There's a good chance you'll never meet her again after a few years. Keep going until this moment.
    • If these negative people are still part of your life five years from now, ask yourself what you can do to change that. Can you go to another school Can you change Can you confront them now and solve the problem?
    • If the negative people are no longer part of your life in five years, think about why they are. Maybe you will study at a university, you will get another job or you will change your social circle. Is there a way to make this change faster?
  3.             3      Forgive the hateful people. Understand that opportunities return to those who distribute them. These people probably won't hate you for the injustice you did to them. Chances are, they are struggling with their own identity at some level. Some people even behave hatefully because they are jealous or because they fail to think about the impact their words have on others. Try to find the empathy to open your heart.
    • When you can forgive the hateful people, you will find that their words are no longer a burden for you. Try to understand their underlying reasons. Expand your awareness beyond your own experiences and insecurities.
    • Don't mistake contemptuous thoughts for forgiveness. Don't tell yourself that these negative people are just stupid, narrow-minded, and / or petty, even if that's true. Remember that haters are also people with their own thoughts and feelings.


  • Never forget to keep your back straight. A strong character will always win brute force.
  • Don't give up spells. Don't act arrogantly or uncomfortably.
  • The next time someone comes up to you or scolds you, give them the peace sign.
  • Remember, it is usually not your problem if someone hates you. If you haven't done anything wrong, it doesn't matter if someone hates you for a little thing. When people have such a problem with you, they need to be mature enough to leave you alone.
  • If negativity is focused on your gender, ethnicity, religion, disability, or sexual orientation, it should not be tolerated. If this happens at school, speak to a teacher or mentor about it. If it happens in your workplace, speak to a manager or someone in HR.
  • Don't let other people's opinions bother you. You have better things to think about and positive things to start with.
  • It's okay if people hate you. You cannot be content all the time, and at some point you will encounter people who hate you, even if it is nothing or jealousy. If someone hates you, be proud that at least you did something to get their attention.
  • Before things escalate, it can be a good idea to alert a negative person to your behavior in good time. It may turn out that he or she is not allowed due to a misunderstanding. If you're not trying to sort things out, you could be missing out on an important friendship.
  • Do you mind that these people are in your life? Surround yourself with people who make you happy!


  • Don't get carried away in a scuffle. This will prevent you from having problems in school or even with the law.
  • Do not revenge. You will likely face the consequences in the end.
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