Therapy Goes Nowhere Album

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Post Sa Apr 10, 2021 5:07 pm

As I understood you at the beginning, your therapist has only asked you if you could imagine taking the ring off. For me, this is something completely different than "urging" to take the ring off.

I would also like to encourage you to tell him that you cannot (yet?) Imagine that. I'm pretty sure he'll accept that and don't push you to do anything. In my therapy I have a situation that is perhaps a little bit comparable. I don't want to say what it's about now because it would blow your thread, but I spontaneously blurted out "I can't even imagine doing that" at a suggestion from him. He then calmly said that I didn't have to do that either and didn't mention it later. Later he said at another point that very small steps mean that you start to imagine something before you can even try it out. But all in good time.

But back to you. You have only been in therapy for a few months. I don't know now what kind of therapy you are doing, but basically there is time in therapy first. After a few months, the mega changes don't have to have happened. Especially not when, like you, you are still in the middle of a grieving process. Be patient with yourself and give yourself time. You don't have to show your therapist any "successes". He certainly doesn't expect that from you.